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SOAPBOX of the week: here’s what you should do…

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 “I owe success to having listened respectfully to the very best advice, and then going away and doing the exact opposite.”     – Gilbert K. Chesterton, writer & philosopher

Right when you least expect it…someone will hurl their unwelcomed “good” advice at you.  Seemingly angled at steering you in the right direction, the carefully wrapped “gift” explodes all over your finely pressed outfit, like an over-filled water balloon whose time has come.  Time and time again friend, family and foe alike lob misguided guidance and unfounded opinions, half-expecting you to follow to safe face …and yet ready to spew an “I told-you-so” when you fall and fail to what they would have done.  So what’s a person to do?  Well, what many of you have been doing all along!  Follow your gut!  That built-in alarm system that’s kept you on your toes and kept you from fumbling through some of the most taxing times of your life.   Somehow, it’s always right.  And although your steadfast sixth sense may not shield you from the inflatables yet to douse your next crossroads decision, it may very well steer you far away from those who sit ready to launch.

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SOAPBOX of the week: the 4-letter word

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“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”  Franklin Delano Roosevelt, US President

Manischewitz, that’s it!  THE big idea of the 20th century that allowed an entire population to see the proverbial light and follow a leader to the mountain!  Through one of the darkest times of American history, one mantra may have indeed helped hope float, creating a life preserver to carry a nation to the next decade.  A trite, seemingly simplistic statement, it stands without need for correction, for it upholds an inherent truth ad infinitum.   Life will always present us with obstacles, dangerous situations, threats, nightmares, heart-wrenching decisions, upsetting results, and yes, the realization of our own mortality.  And, no doubt, the relentless realist in you may crave to discredit this famous assertion, arguing the endless list of potential problems and negative possibilities should warrant panic and protection.  But you won’t get an email headlining just when all hell will break loose… let alone, if at all, folks!  So call it what you will: terror, dread, worry, anxiety, alarm, apprehension, reverence, or utter petrification –the shadow FEAR casts has the undeserved power to ruin so many magical moments life is indeed also readying to deliver with dawn’s beaming light.  Choose to deny it such debilitating control and allow your eternal optimist to unabashedly embrace this leader’s plausible, though perhaps fairytale-like enlightenment.  Forever choose faith over fear and you reinforce your own authority of leading a life of memorable “aha’s!” versus “ut-oh’s!” 

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SOAPBOX of the week: ohmmmmmmmm

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“Should you desire the great tranquility, prepare to sweat white beads.”   – Hakuin Ekaku, 17th century Zen Master

Ooohhh, leave it to one of the most influential Buddhists of all times to lay it out there without pretenses or patience for excuses!  Indeed, you aren’t always given the reigns of control… and must simply deal with it!  Like a Mac-user waiting on a Microsoft download, you grasp the feeling of standing, with hands tied by Father Time, fighting the twitches in your furrowed brow. Now… replay some of those experiences when you freakishly fast-forwarded to the finish line, only to get sent back to the beginning.  Like opening the oven door on a prized soufflé … the results are tastelessly inferior and you end up infuriated at yourself!

Sitting on your hands…yes, like you were scolded to do as a kid… can and does keep you out of trouble.  No doubt it may cause acid reflux, but time after time, practicing patience adds another layer of faith that reinforces your trust in yourself and others.   Learn to tolerate the oh-so-uncomfortable, un-quiet quiet and your body, mind and spirit will experience the lighter, enlightening action of waiting.  Sweat it out, my friends, and take pleasure in the peace.

Copyright 2000-2010 by Kimberlie Dykeman. SUBSCRIBE to FREE feed/email  HERE!
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SOAPBOX of the week: refuse to repeat

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“Movement in a new direction helps you find new cheese.”    –  Haw from Who Moved My Cheese? by Dr. Spencer Johnson

Make today the day that you plunge into uncharted territory. Purposefully cross paths with some of the sharpest strangers you will ever meet in your life. Throw a proverbial curve ball at your comfort zones and associate yourself with people from whom you can continuously learn about life on a daily basis. Scroll your picture show as ever changing and ever expanding.

No doubt, any and all of this sounds a little scary, like being strapped into a 24/7 roller coaster. But given a choice, I think you’d rather take that over Groundhog Day any day. The world offers so much out there for you to experience. You only need to open your minds. And, those of you who know of this quoted book are probably smiling right now, having another “a-ha!” or two. Just, think back to when peanut butter and jelly became old news. You have so very much to gain from even entertaining the idea of change, but trust me, it’s even better when you let osmosis get the best of you. Choose to diligently and actively lay out a fabulous future. Choose to make each day’s closing scroll of credits one that Spielberg would envy. And understand that with change comes adventure and unpredictability with absolutely priceless rewards.

This is an excerpt from “Pure Soapbox“  by Kimberlie Dykeman. Copyright 2008 by Kimberlie Dykeman.        SUBSCRIBE to FREE feed/email  HERE!
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SOAPBOX of the week: break the holding pattern

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“The future has no lobby.”     –  Peter G. Peterson, banker, author, and politician

Let me say that again.  The future HAS NO LOBBY.  Period.  There are only two rooms, in the biosphere of life: A, the present and B, the past.  That’s it.  No need for a hallway to connect them, since everyone ultimately passes from A to B.  And certainly no warmly-lit foyer sprinkled with comfy loveseats, droning Muzak, and artificial arrangements.  So, look around. Is your current reality room housing countless anxious awaiters sporting falsely-at-ease facades? Are your relationships revolving around the collective glorious plans yet to be?  Are you stuck in unresolved, record-skipping conversations while sipping free crappy, no-name coffee and banking that the next someone who enters will indeed ignite your future now?  Sorry to be the kill-joy, but there’s a reason why all the People magazines are nine months old.  You’ve parked yourself in the past, where a pie-in-the-sky future-perfect will never manifest.  See, opportunities and potential blessings can only be seen clearly through the windows of the present.  …and that drive-through is always open!  So, stop idling in your own history.  Leave the lobby-in-your-mind and truly experience a here-and-now worthwhile…that you didn’t grow old waiting for.

Copyright 2000-2010 by Kimberlie Dykeman.        SUBSCRIBE to FREE feed/email  HERE!
“Pure Soapbox“ available nationwide & audiobook available on iTUNES & Audible.com!  A portion of the proceeds of all book sales is donated to LIVESTRONG. 

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SOAPBOX of the week: scheming success

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“When you know what you want the whole world conspires you to achieve it.”    – Paulo Coelho, lyricist & novelist

News flash, folks.  You are standing in your own way.  Mhmm.  At least your negative thoughts are.  Don’t believe me?  What does it take to make you believe that “the system” is against you?  That life is doling out a Groundhog’s Day serving of Murphy’s Law with a side-order of hell-in-a-hand-basket sandwich?  Truth is, the real answers may lie in the fact that you still don’t know who you are, what you want or what your true purpose is, and you’re EXPECTING the universe to hand-deliver a silver platter of solutions with an entourage of screaming fans.  So, Negative Nancy, what if you deleted those paranoiac judgments of an unyieldingly undermining world and considered all the things that are going right for you and setting you up for a killer day?!  

Connect the dots and reality paints a whole new gloriously positive picture; and with it comes enlightenment and a resolute path of vitality and clarity.  Perhaps then you’ll even choose to upload a new theory -one that will indeed lift your spirit with the compelling concept that the world is working synergistically and symbiotically in your favor…one person at a time!  Around town, and perhaps around the world, random individuals are spreading your good name, sharing your information, completing tasks, investigating opportunities, and getting people talking… all for your benefit.  Yup… people are conspiring FOR YOU.   Working unsolicitously and hoping that others get fired up about your solid reputation, your brilliant work, your fresh ideas, your steadfast friendship…hell, even your stunning, perhaps quirky, smile!  Pair a positive clear outlook with this presumed glee club of personal advocates, and there’s nothing you can’t achieve.  Trust that at any moment, life is creating people who are indeed rooting for you …working to bless you beyond your imagination.  So, cheer up, wake up, wise up, and ring the damn bell!

Copyright 2000-2010 by Kimberlie Dykeman.        SUBSCRIBE to FREE feed/email  HERE!
“Pure Soapbox“ available nationwide & audiobook available on iTUNES & Audible.com!  A portion of the proceeds of all book sales is donated to LIVESTRONG. 

BOOK KIMBERLIE TO MOTIVATE  your peeps!  info@puresoapbox.com / 310- 500- 9587