EVOLVE or Decay Ep. 12: Divorce is not FAILURE

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In today’s EVOLVE or Decay episode, Kimberlie Dykeman inspires divorced men to forgive themselves and reset for a better future. 

Never Stop EVOLVING.  – KD

 

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SOAPBOX® mini-motivation: foundation of communication

“Truth without love is brutality… love without truth is hypocrisy.”     ~ Warren Wiersbe, pastor, Christian writer, speaker

Read these words outloud.  Then read it again and let the magic eclipse our world’s confounded reality.  Think about it.  Stew on it.  Memorize it.  Tattoo it on your heart, mind and lips.  Then… practice it.  Hone it.  Communicate it. Cherish it.  Teach it.  Focus on it the rest of your days.  And LIVE it….for a more blessed life depends on it.  As does a better world.  Become a walking example of truth and love, and leave a wake of followers who do the very same.   ~ KD

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SOAPBOX® mini-motivation: pageant or poetry

“Climb the mountain not to plant your flag, but to embrace the challenge, enjoy the air and behold the view. Climb it so you can see the world, not so the world can see you.”       ~ David McCullough, modern-day English teacher

Life is not a pageant.  And yet we  unabashedly tuck this gloriously divine journey and spontaneously shared experience into a flippant 4-letter word and dress it up like a calamatied, desperate, purpose-less reality star who ultimately exploits and extinguishes her own value.  Life is not charading parade of nipped and tucked excuses of beauty…of average activities reupholstered to elicit wooing and swooning in hopes of earning awards no more valuable or necessary  than a 14 carat gold tombstone.  Life is not a calling to exhibit one’s presumed importance for awe’s sake of our 7 billion relatives.  For life is LIFE.  It’s like light and air and thoughts and bodies… it’s just there.  And we all have IT… for some time.  And no one’s is more important.  For we are all but a sum of parts playing on a gameboard on an unpretentious planet… and when one piece gets taken away, the game still goes on.

And so, perhaps life is like a poetry slam, or so I humbly reflect.  A dedicated effort of an affected orator striving to breathe life into the written word with emphatic, emoting performance that eggs both speaker and audience to tug the air for more oxygen and the room for more space and actions for more meaning.  Life is emulated by the aerobic effort required by this act of igniting possibilities into a kinetic energy that spills on and rips through every thread of those in the same circling space.   And yet the expansion of meaning in the mutterings from muted paper are mere reflections of the challenges of the poet himself.  Though he stands upon a stage, he knows his spectators ironically watch themselves shift under influence, and he is without need of approval.  For the poet alone strives to make it to the top of a metaphorical mountain…but for the experience alone of seeing a new view revealed upon his last breath into the last particle of punctuation.  Breath to thoughts to words to actions to breath again… and then another upward hike to enlightenment.  Unstaged life unfolding.   ~ KD

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SOAPBOX® mini-motivation: be brave …tomorrow

“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow.”     ~ Mary Anne Radmacher, author & artist

Ever had a day where you woke up with the best of intentions in mind, with your hair on fire to make a difference and leave your mark on this world, and with a sense of clarity that could power through any obstacle…. only to have it all seemingly stomped on my noon?  Missteps and metaphorical missiles blew your intentions to bits.  Challenges and chiding people doused your ignited spirit with doubt and drama.  And confusion clouded your once impervious vision.  And there you sat and the day’s close wondering what the hell happened?  How did all the proverbial S&!T hit the fan when you were sure you woke up on the side of the bed that promised purpose, achievement, peace and joy.

Those are days no one cares to speak of, but we all know happen more often than not.  They are part and parcel to being human.

To being alive.

That said, each night as you retire to allow the next morning to arrive… listen for the voice of courage.  For its message sears your heart and spine with the unshakable bravery and reminds you to place your armor, ideas, determination and enthusiasm by the foot of your bed.  For perhaps tomorrow is your day to overcome and celebrate.     ~ KD

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SOAPBOX® mini-motivation: settling is for shmoes

We must make the choices that enable us to fulfill the deepest capacities of our real selves.     ~  Thomas Merton, writer, social activist & mystic

From breakfast cereal to best friend, shoes to school, part-time job to partner for life… there’s not a second that goes by that we don’t make a decision or have a circumstance knocking at our doors, begging for one.  When the challenges and curveballs come, though, life  tests our courage and willingness to adapt, change and choose a direction.  It’s then that the dilemma of Rice Krispies over Cheerios doesn’t deserve a second thought, for I’ll bet the farm that never was one’s destiny teetering on the battle of snap, crackle and pop versus that stupid little honey bee.  And yet, we think we don’t really have to settle for what’s put in front of us, because we have the power to create the selections from which to choose.  Right?  I mean, we bought the groceries.  Well, why the hell do so many of us forget that power when considering the real meat-and-potato issues and opportunities in life.  Why do we SETTLE?  

Settling.  Ugh.  Geez…even the word sounds… deflated.  We turn our noses up when we hear someone else commit the crime yet we are not innocent of doing the very same.  Allowing ourselves to live in the median, in the grey, in an unexplored space of the status quo.  So why do we do it?  Why do we settle?

Perhaps lack of knowledge, fear of failure, worry over repercussions, comfort with the predictable, judgment from others… the list is tiring and truthfully loooong.  But perhaps it’s also because we have lost loving  touch with our guts…our instincts…our heart…and our spirit that still knows how to take us to the moon and back if we only choose to leap towards our true selves.  Our story is written by our journey, folks, and the journey is written by our hearts.  When we dive into the deep end of decisions and face them head-on with all our might, focus and faith, we’ll surface to breathe in relief, real joy, redemption, resolution, and a gloriously REAL reality.     ~ KD

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