SOAPBOX of the week: the arithmetic of friendship

“It is one of the severest tests of friendship to tell your friend of his faults…To speak painful truth through loving words… that is friendship.”     – Henry Ward Beecher, clergyman
If there were a system for categorizing friends, you could say they add, subtract, multiply or divide your life somehow.  With a little analysis, you can easily file them as such.  Mind you, doing so is neither to praise nor condemn any as “good” or “evil”.  Instead it prompts you to evaluate each person’s impact and influence in your daily life. Who multiplies your joy?  Adds to your problems?  Divides your burdens?  Subtracts from your own identity?  Those who do not increase the positives within and around you will inevitably decrease the value of your experiences with negative drain.  So, do the math.  You’ve chosen your pals…now decide what you want to absorb and be surrounded by.  Speak up about what lifts you up and drags you down and create a formula for the strong friendship you both deserve.

Copyright 2000-2009 by Kimberlie Dykeman
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SOAPBOX of the week: treasured ties of fellowship

“A friend is somebody you want to be around
when you feel like being by yourself.”     – Barbara Burrow, author

We all have those days.  You don’t want to cry, but a shoulder wouldn’t hurt.  You can figure it out on your own, but could use some advice and are open to hearing the truth.  You don’t feel like talking, but wouldn’t mind listening.  You’re fine being by alone, but don’t want to get lonely.  And there THEY are.  They’re not family.  Not sweethearts.  But when you’re apart, life just ain’t nearly as fabulous!  And that defines true friendship.  Whatever you call them…if you’ve found your anamchara, soul friend, or BFF.  Love them.  Cherish them.  Nurture them.  For the love and loyalty you devote to your friends creates a lifeline to getting the most out of your life and really experiencing all it has to offer… especially when you feel not leaving the house!

Copyright 2008 by Kimberlie Dykeman 

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